"Reverence your husband" There is no greater need, no deeper desire, and no thought more consuming for a man, than to be respected.
The scripture is clear on this point. The divine command is, "Reverence your husband". Reverence in this context refers to "respect."
"I will not respect him, because he is not deserving of it." Says one distraught soul.
Respect is earned, and that's a general principle. However, the capacity to relate respectfully to any person is a principle that should be inculcated in our very being. We don't love, just because they are lovable. In the same vein, we don't show respect only to the deserving.
Respect is a way of treating or thinking about something or someone, says Vocabulary.com. Respect is due regard for the feelings, wishes, and rights of others. He does not have to be honorable to be honored. He is honored just by virtue of being a human. Showing respect is more a way of life.
"Respect is earned. BUT, you must give respect to receive respect", Incites the Urban Dictionary.
Let's examine, for a moment, this biblical injunction. "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any obey not the Word, they also may be won without the word by the conduct of their wives. 1 Peter 3:1.
He may not obey the word. He may not meet your expectation at every point. He may not possess the excellent traits that you observe in others. The fact is, you respect him, faulty or faultless. You win him by your general conduct. You respect him, just by virtue of the fact that he is human.
Many do not show respect to their husband, because they were not oriented in showing respect to their dad, or brother, or any other person. They might have inherited wrong communication patterns from their family of origin, or their surrounding.Hence, their way of viewing people, their general mode of operation is to protect themselves through belching disrespect at anyone who seems to threaten their comfort or well-being.
But if we are to live responsibly with people. If we are to live happily with our spouse and children, we must develop an attitude of respect for everyone, regardless of their state, class or caste. We show respect because being respectful is who we are. It is our way of seeing people and the world.