View your marriage as a separate entity, like the goose that lays the golden egg. Feed it & it produces spectacular results. Ignore or starve it & it ceases to produce the golden egg.
If you kill it, thinking you can extract all the golden eggs at once, then your future hope of getting any golden egg has perished forever.
One of the principal ways to kill your marriage is to erode the self-worth of each other with demeaning words
If a man or woman has not matured to the degree where he/she learns to bridle the tongue, then it's better for such a one to REMAIN SINGLE.
Marriage is not to be trifled with, as though it was designed for every reckless and unregenerate soul. It was made by a Holy God, and bequeathed to holy people;
People who understand the importance of treating each other with tender loving care:
People who find it pleasurable to affirm, appreciate and edify each other. People who are "kindly affectioned one to another, in honor preferring one another" (Romans 12:10).