MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life.
One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.
That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.
When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:
1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size.
Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey.
It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband.
All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place.
There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe.
Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.
Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined, anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.
In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counsellors and Relationship coaches).
And most importantly to avoid much time wasting , simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (Almighty God).
NOTE :"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage."
Ladies of today get so motivated when they attend weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding ooooh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?
Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like it or can purchase it.
-Where was this shoe made? (Background)
-What's the size? (Values)
-How much? (His/Her interest)
-How long will it last? (His/Her Character)
-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith? This is called compatibility)
-Will it match me? (This is whether he/she loves you and will
accept you the way you are)
Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they
would hardly reach their destinations, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars.
Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size. You can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first, but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.
And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.