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The Six Basic Needs of a Man

A wife makes herself irresistible to her husband by learning to meet his five basic needs.

She does not Chide him for what he is not, but celebrate him for what he is.


The single man is asking. Can she meet my basic needs? What are my basic needs by the way?

Find out here:


The Six Basic Needs of the man


1. His need for Respect

Ephesians 5:22, 23, 33

He needs her to be proud of him. He needs her to be his most ardent fan.

He needs her to treat him as her hero.

A man’s ego is the most fragile thing in the universe


Her tongue- most effective in disrespecting him.

Respect him with the children

How you live will determine how the children live as it relates to offering respect for him

Respect his position. You disrespect him by disregarding his authority in the home


2. His need for affirmation

Admiration is the energy that propels him along.

It is sweet people that create a sweet marriage


She speaks to the king in her man.

Identify the good in him and celebrate him for it.


Appreciate him for what he is.

Do not chide him for what he is not. Instead, celebrate him for what he is.

Her encouragement enables him to become more confident and achieve more


3. Domestic support

Home support.

He needs peace and quiet/ tranquility.

She creates a home that offers peace and quiet.

He needs a refuge.

Not a storm in the harbor of life, but a harbor in the storm of life.


Home for him, is rest and rejuvenation.

1 Peter 3: 1-6

The three Bs of a man: Bed, Body & Back



4. Recreational companionship

He wants a recreational companion.

He complains: Why don’t you do this with me anymore?

The need to have fun with his partner is a great need of a man

Think of his recreational habits as a boy



5. Intimacy/ Sexual fulfillment

Proverbs 5:15 - 19

Proverbs 4 :9

Hebrews 13:4

This need is strong and must be satisfied, else sets the stage for an affair

Avoid sexual rejection/ loneliness.

Why do you take your car to the gas station? Do you need gas?

No. The car needs gas. You give the car what it needs.


6. An attractive spouse: PIES

The Bible reminds us: “If a man looks at a woman.”

His need for her attractiveness.

She is possessed of inner and outer beauty. She dresses in a way that is attractive and tasteful to him. He is pleased with, and proud of her.

He admires the soft and feminine side of her.

Ladies. You are not persuasive or attractive when you are abrasive

The acronym: PIES


P Physical attractiveness. However, don’t over accentuate the external, the outer shell

I Intellectual attractiveness. Be committed to personal growth and development.

E Emotional attractiveness. Most important for the relationship EQ

S Spiritual attractiveness. Your beliefs and values.



All the things to understand about a man

He needs a good listener


You must be obvious because men do not like hints


He wants a woman with a positive attitude


Physical attractiveness.


He wants transparency.


He wants a willingness to listen


Respect him. If not, he finds it difficult to love you.


Loyalty and support


Your feminine energy


Identify the best in him, even when he cannot see it.


Speak to the king in your man



Bible references

Proverbs 9:13 Clamorous or simple woman

Proverbs 19:13 Contentions of a wife

Proverbs 21:9,19; 25:24 Corner of the house top wilderness


Song of Solomon 4:9 to 5:1

Song of Solomon 1:8-10

1 Peter 3:1-5

Ephesians 5:22,23,33

Song of Solomon8:1,2,6.

1 Corinthians 7:1-5

Hebrews 13:4

Proverbs 9:13; 19:13; 21:9

Proverbs 25:24


Happiness is the core in relationships

Even if things are tough, if happiness exists, both parties can survive anything in a relationship.


Meeting needs

Proverbs 31:28 Praises her

1 Peter 3:1-6 Calls him Lord

Ephesians 5:33 Respect him

Philippines 4:8 Whatsoever things are lovely

Mark 10:45 Jesus came to serve/ to meet Needs




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